Thursday, January 14, 2016

Alma 48:1-13

It seems like one lesson here is to be careful of leaders who lead by hate and anger. Amalickiah managed to get the Lamanties to go to battle against the Nephites, even though one short year ago they had been determined to fight each other not to have to go. He did it by making them feel angry and hateful towards them. I can’t see God working that way, which makes it hard to believe that leaders would be choosing the right when they were making choices or trying to persuade you that way.
It feels like it is dirty for him to use Nephite dissenters as the leaders of the army because they knew where the Nephites were weak and what their strategies and strengths were. But it only feels dirty because his intentions are evil. I guess this is where it comes in again that Moroni didn’t consider it a sin to use strategy to beat the Lamenites. Some actions are not inherently good or evil, it is really about intentions and what you are trying to accomplish. So often when we judge each other it is because we assigning intent to what someone is doing, which we often can’t really know, and shouldn’t assume. I know that is something I have a hard time with. Because I don’t even notice that I am making assumptions as I interpret a situation. It is really hard to step back from that and see an action isolated from intent.
It is important to me that Moroni didn’t start preparing for the attack on his people when the armies were approaching. He began before they had even been convinced to fight. I think for me as a parent that is important to remember because I need to home and family and children to be protected and fortified before the attack comes. There are no huge temptations in their lives yet, but they need to be strengthened before that time, not in the midst of the battle. Then when the hard things do come they are more likely to survive. What can I do better?
Mormon gives some really specific details about how Moroni prepared his people. If he took the time to carve it into the plates, the specifics must matter.

What Moroni Did
What I can do
Preparing the minds of the people to be faithful to the Lord their God (v. 7)
This is the gospel teaching in our home. Teaching my children about God’s love and what he has given us. Especially teaching them about the atonement and how it gives us hope and joy and how we can trust Him to save us. When we know how much he loves us, when we really know what he has done for us, that is when we are prepared to be faithful to him.
Strengthening the armies of the Nephites (v.8)
My army is my family. I need to be consciously doing what I can to help them be strong, and make sure that they have a good network of fellow soldiers to help them feel strong.
Erecting forts (v.8)
About making safe places and times of refuge. I think this is about making sacred spaces. Family scripture study and prayers, family night, going to church together. Set times and places to reconnect with each other and with the Spirit. Established places of refuge.
Walls around the cities (v.8)
The rules we make for protection of our family. Keeping bad media out of our home, treating each other kindly. Being in sacred places.
Concentrated most effort weaknesses (v.9)
This feels like it has to do with the deliberate parenting Rebecca always talks about. I need to be mindful of what needs to be taught, who needs to be comforted, and how I can do those things with the help of God. It is going through the day and making my decisions with thought instead of reaction.
Individually, this reminds me of the talk about “what lack I yet.” And also the scripture from Ether 12:27. It isn’t just that he gives us weaknesses to make us humble, but also that he will show us what they are and help us strengthen them.

So then to protect my family like Moroni protected his people, do I need to be the kind of leader he was? Mormon describes him as:

  • Strong and mighty
    • Maybe just firm in standing for truth. I think I have a strong personality if not physique. And I am grateful for the idea that being strong is not a bad thing.
    • Update: I had some more thoughts about the strong and mighty part later. I started thinking about President Nelson’s talk from the last general conference called A Plea to My Sisters. Especially this: “We need your strength, your conversion, your conviction, your ability to lead, your wisdom, and your voices.” Not only is okay to be strong, but God needs our strength, specifically. Voices that tell us to be docile and wrong.
    • I was also thinking that how we physically present ourselves in a situation matters. Moroni was strong and mighty in a time of a war, which was what people needed to feel confident. It is the same reason missionaries need to look nice, and the same reason I always wear makeup if I am going to be presenting, or in a meeting where I need to be taken more seriously. 
  • Perfect understanding
    • I wish for perfect understanding, and I suppose I do try to seek for perfect understanding. But perfect is a big word there. I think the seeking is a good start?
  • Did not delight in bloodshed
    • I think for me this is about when I am right, not enjoying that someone else is wrong and I win. Not punishing my kids because I am mad, but doing things only with a pure heart and good intentions.
  • Joy in the liberty and freedom of his country
    • My joy is in my family being free from sin and becoming good men. Sometimes I forget that that is really my priority, and where my joy comes from. Being mindful of goals.
  • Heart swollen with thanksgiving to God
    • Remembering all that God has done for our family, for me, for all of us, so that my faith in Him and this cause remain. Not getting caught up in the hard things, but remembering that Christ is victorious in the end. If I can focus on the thanksgiving, will that make the details less frustrating?
  • Labor exceedingly in his cause
    • NOT BE LAZY
  • Firm in the faith of Christ
    • To lead my family to the safety of faith, I have to be firmly there. Small daily choices that help me remember and feel the Spirit.
  • Sworn an oath to defend his people, even to the loss of his blood
    • Willing to sacrifice whatever it takes. Selfless. So hard.

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